40+ Years Old Too Late to Start a Family?

[Vin Deezyzzl]

I will add, your more than likely going to have slim Pickens for anyone 35 and over that is interested in having more or start.

Probably looking at the 30 to 33 range

I got divorced after 14 years at 36-then dated some women both older and younger, mostly a bit younger. Took a bit but determined that I didn't want to go more than 5 years either direction....beyond that it seemed just too far apart in life to realistically make things work...at least for me. Divorced a year and met an absolutely amazing woman, figured we'd date a few months, then ease back into our own lives...that was in 2007 lol. As far as starting a family, that was completely off the table for both of us. Her youngest was a senior in high school, id already raised a stepdaughter, no way did I want to start all over again, neither did she.

 

[Xxplosive]

I got divorced after 14 years at 36-then dated some women both older and younger, mostly a bit younger. Took a bit but determined that I didn't want to go more than 5 years either direction....beyond that it seemed just too far apart in life to realistically make things work...at least for me. Divorced a year and met an absolutely amazing woman, figured we'd date a few months, then ease back into our own lives...that was in 2007 lol. As far as starting a family, that was completely off the table for both of us. Her youngest was a senior in high school, id already raised a stepdaughter, no way did I want to start all over again, neither did she.

Sounds like you basically had lived a full life by the time you were 37. Id wanna just chill after all that, too.

It was more so for people who are at/near 40 who never had a chance to have a family before. Idk if i would want to start a 2nd family just for the fuck of it.

 

[Vin Deezyzzl]

Sounds like you basically had lived a full life by the time you were 37. Id wanna just chill after all that, too.

It was more so for people who are at/near 40 who never had a chance to have a family before. Idk if i would want to start a 2nd family just for the fuck of it.

I know people that have started over again with another family and have another kid, it's like 30-35 straight years of raising kids lol. But no I don't think 40 is top old to start, but hard to fathom much older. 60 y/o when a kid graduates, no thanks.

 

[Xxplosive]

I know people that have started over again with another family and have another kid, it's like 30-35 straight years of raising kids lol. But no I don't think 40 is top old to start, but hard to fathom much older. 60 y/o when a kid graduates, no thanks.

Problem is, if me and my gf both went our separate ways, its not like i would meet someone and start a family tmw. I turn 41 in 2 months, even rushing the process wifh a new chick i would be about 44-45 by the time the kid is born.

 

[Boom180]

Me being 40 I know the likelihood of meeting and considering having a baby even if I can physically (with lots of hcg and hmg it may be possible) is unlikely.

I won't rule it out. Being a dad has been the only factor during this divorce that has kept my mind stable. That and the gym.
I would even consider adoption if it wasn't just a money grab.

 

[Xxplosive]

Me being 40 I know the likelihood of meeting and considering having a baby even if I can physically (with lots of hcg and hmg it may be possible) is unlikely.

I won't rule it out. Being a dad has been the only factor during this divorce that has kept my mind stable. That and the gym.
I would even consider adoption if it wasn't just a money grab.

Sounds like i need to just accept my fate. Men are shamed if they admit being affected by loneliness. When you have nobody and nothing to work towards, it makes you question why you stay in the rat race at all.

 

[Boom180]

We have seen people in their 50s and 60s have kids lol. It all revolves around what boxes you need to have checked.

Likelihood of finding someone 37 who also wants more or any kids is hard, if being a dad is one of your top priorities then you need to accept opening your range up on ages.
There are mature 25 year Olds who are fun and Loyal and would rather have someone older so they don't have to put up with the typical 25 bs.
But are you going to be ok with that Age ? Personally I don't think it's frowned upon as much as people like to think.
If your not willing to consider 25, 30... then you have a really small pond to search. You better be a damn good fisherman or find a bigger , more stocked pond

 

[Warrior]

Every time I get any inkling of wanting another kid I remind myself that I will probably be a grandfather w/in the next 5 years. My little gym protege is 28 and his girl is a few days past her due date right now. I told them that as long as I’m available they always have a baby sitter. They’re having a boy, my kids are all girls. Can’t be that much different though