I tell anyone who honestly loves who they are with but having those extreme issues really consider counseling.
I was not Gung ho on it but honestly it has taught me alot and gotten me through this divorce without me running into oncoming traffic.
If both individuals are willing to go and work on themselves and the relationship then success rates go up much much higher. Mine was not willing to, and honestly I don't blame her with the man I've been.
I know there are women out there in their early 30s that have their shit together and don't mind an older guy especially if they take care of themselves. It's not necessarily the age but what you do with it. That goes on both ends. I get what your saying though, finding a younger person at that stage is often more difficult. They do exist though.
So let's say you DO find one- society as a whole has gotten miserable and loves to find ways to demonize people. Every time i go on social media and an article about a couple with an age gap pops up, the older guy is called a perv/creep/etc and gets flooded with negative opinions. It's easy to say that you "shouldn't care what others think", but what if that extends to her friends and family? No matter how well you connect, im afraid 2 people in completely different age groups will not be able to relate the same way as someone who is within a couple years age. Id be afraid of her eventually getting the desire to be with a younger guy.
I am seeing a therapist right now, and honestly it doesn't help. Therapists are for people who lack self awareness and dont know how to cope. Externally, i keep running into the same issues no matter how positive of an outlook i have or how much i do the right thing. Therapists have no control over that.
We have been meaning to go to couples therapy and even had an appointment scheduled months ago, but she has been having chronic migraines for months and her health has been awful, she got a bad staph infection and has a really painful lump in a breast now to add to the problem. So we have put that on the back burner, because her physical health is more important.
I am just so exhausted by life and people, i enjoy nothing any more. Ive cut out 99% of my friends who are just completely toxic, obnoxious and narcissistic, me and my girl dont even spend time any more because her health is fucked and I have to walk on eggshells for her, i enjoy NOTHING any more, im not close with my family... it feels like im living just to pay taxes, and im wondering why i keep doing it. I have no real hope for any kind of future and dont want to grow old to be by myself with no money and nothing to do. My sexual functions work 100% fine, but i have 0 desire to have sex or be intimate with anyone. Seriously considering just eating a bullet so i dont let this misery drag out any longer. Nobody depends on me for anything or hardly ever sees me, my dad died in September so at least i know i wont be disappointing him if i did.