40+ Years Old Too Late to Start a Family?

Obviously it's physically possible for both men and women to have kids at that age. What im asking is "Is it unrealistic to start a family at 40+", meaning finding a chick in your age range who doesn't have kids already.

Yes, there's younger chicks, but it's becoming increasingly frowned upon to be in a serious relationship with a chick more than a few years younger than you, and Gen Z has some horrible attitudes.

Are the choices just be single and bang random chicks every so often or settle for damaged goods?

If you find the right female it’s definitely possible. I can’t keep my dick in my pants so I’ve accepted the fact that I’ll most likely never get married. I don’t worry about age as long as they’re at least in their 20s. You’re as young as you feel so I’m only in my 20s even though I recently turned 43

Warrior said:

If you find the right female it’s definitely possible. I can’t keep my dick in my pants so I’ve accepted the fact that I’ll most likely never get married. I don’t worry about age as long as they’re at least in their 20s. You’re as young as you feel so I’m only in my 20s even though I recently turned 43

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I personally don't care about age at all. But others ie family's, her friends etc might, id rather not deal with that.

i also dont think you can really trust a chick who is a lot younger, does she really give a fuck about you or are you just looked at ass someone who is gonna take care of her?

I turn 40 this year man and really want kids. People our age are just fucking broken if not already in an establish relationship. I've had some 27ish yr old girls hit on me and that feels good but not sure I could be in a serious relationship with one. I was picky for tonlong I guess and ended up with nothing lol

blacksheep115 said:

I turn 40 this year man and really want kids. People our age are just fucking broken if not already in an establish relationship. I've had some 27ish yr old girls hit on me and that feels good but not sure I could be in a serious relationship with one. I was picky for tonlong I guess and ended up with nothing lol

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Yes, this is a very sorry age group if you don't already have a happy family of your own. Even if a chick is 35+ with no kids, there is likely a good reason why she was never married.

After having raised a daughter solo for the past 15 years I’ve realized that what’s out there for “women” is essentially nil. Social media and feminism have taken these women and over inflated their value exponentially. The last girl I “dated” who was in her twenties messaged me a week ago asking if she can stay with me while she gets established in a new job. I told her I’d pick her up at the airport. Guess who is probably still sitting at the airport right now? You guessed it. These females nowadays ain’t shit and finding one that is worthy of carrying a child is pretty much impossible unless you want your incubator to be some onlyfans whore with 1500 followers. I’ve said my peace. Don’t get married brother. If anything volunteer your time with kids whose parents DONT CARE AND WHO TRULY WANT A FATHER FIGURE IN THEIR LIFE. Just my two cents but based on decades of experience.

zeusmcgee said:

After having raised a daughter solo for the past 15 years I’ve realized that what’s out there for “women” is essentially nil. Social media and feminism have taken these women and over inflated their value exponentially. The last girl I “dated” who was in her twenties messaged me a week ago asking if she can stay with me while she gets established in a new job. I told her I’d pick her up at the airport. Guess who is probably still sitting at the airport right now? You guessed it. These females nowadays ain’t shit and finding one that is worthy of carrying a child is pretty much impossible unless you want your incubator to be some onlyfans whore with 1500 followers. I’ve said my peace. Don’t get married brother. If anything volunteer your time with kids whose parents DONT CARE AND WHO TRULY WANT A FATHER FIGURE IN THEIR LIFE. Just my two cents but based on decades of experience.

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What you described is exactly where im at with the social media influence, feminism and other far left bullshit that's poisoned society. If you notice, on social media, any time a celeb gets in a relationship with someone 10+ years younger, they are demonized, called a creep, etc. I can understand a 60+ yo dating a 20 yo being looked at some type of way, but people have imo gone overboard with the age thing.

I am also tbh afraid to even sleep with a girl too much younger since this metoo movement bullshit has made girls think it's acceptable to retroactively take back consent after sex. You dont even have to do anything to piss the girl off after, months or years down the road you might get hit with a bullshit charge and have your life ruined.

Best advice I can give is don’t fuck bitches from the gym. 9/10 serious head cases who seem to have zero issue with just hopping on anabolics in order to look “instagram ready” like there is zero work ethic in these hoes. They don’t seem to have any respect or appreciation for women of the past and everything they did and in the same breath will call you a misogynist because you don’t bend to their leftist cuck bullshit. I’m about to the point where I’m just going to start “hog farming” and just take a fat chick who is a sweet wonderful woman and turn her into a sweet wonderful woman who could win a figure show if she were so inclined. Many of the women who men look past have so much to offer they are just asking in the looks department, some cardio and some clen can turn a 5 to an 8 pretty quick if they have a cute face. I’m just at a point where I’m content slinging dick and maintaining my sanity all while not having to deal with a wife with insanely unrealistic expectations of what their life should be, rather than looking at things like “what can I contribute to make it better for BOTH OF US” I can just focus on me and my daughter and teaching her how to avoid the bullshit when she gets older.

I'm 40 with a 3 year old and going through a divorce. I still want another kid if... I met someone. Chances are slim but still leaving the door open. Hopefully don't fuck up the next relationship as bad as this one...

I will add, your more than likely going to have slim Pickens for anyone 35 and over that is interested in having more or start.

Probably looking at the 30 to 33 range

Boom180 said:

I will add, your more than likely going to have slim Pickens for anyone 35 and over that is interested in having more or start.

Probably looking at the 30 to 33 range

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And that's the problem- most chicks that gonna be 8-10 years younger are not gonna want a guy that much older unless they are doing it just because they see you as financial security for them.

I was involved with a gorgeous 35 yo chick when i was 37 who was never married and no kids.... she turned out to be extremely selfish, inconsiderate af literally did not care about anyone but herself and whatever was convenient for her.

Tbh- I am in a relationship right now with my gf of the last 20 years on and off (3 years have been back together) she has no kids, we had plans on getting married and starting a family, but we sent her to rehab (alcoholic) for a year, she's had some chronic health problems and honestly she has become so toxic and impossible to deal with that im very close to being burned out permanently from her- i can either tough it and we can try to go to therapy when her health is back in order, or i can walk away and try to start over.

But what is starting over at 41 (in June) yo? Realistically would take a year or two if im lucky to even meet a girl who i would hit it off that well, and nobody jumps into a kid on the first date. So realistically, that's 3-4 years even with rushing everything.

I still love my gf and want things to work out, but I am very close accepting that her level of damage and ungrateful attitude is just irreparable and she's a lost cause

zeusmcgee said:

Best advice I can give is don’t fuck bitches from the gym. 9/10 serious head cases who seem to have zero issue with just hopping on anabolics in order to look “instagram ready” like there is zero work ethic in these hoes. They don’t seem to have any respect or appreciation for women of the past and everything they did and in the same breath will call you a misogynist because you don’t bend to their leftist cuck bullshit. I’m about to the point where I’m just going to start “hog farming” and just take a fat chick who is a sweet wonderful woman and turn her into a sweet wonderful woman who could win a figure show if she were so inclined. Many of the women who men look past have so much to offer they are just asking in the looks department, some cardio and some clen can turn a 5 to an 8 pretty quick if they have a cute face. I’m just at a point where I’m content slinging dick and maintaining my sanity all while not having to deal with a wife with insanely unrealistic expectations of what their life should be, rather than looking at things like “what can I contribute to make it better for BOTH OF US” I can just focus on me and my daughter and teaching her how to avoid the bullshit when she gets older.

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I don't even talk to chicks at the gym. The hot ones put themselves so high up on a pedestal that i refuse to give them the satisfaction that i even give 2 shits what they look like. The hottest girl i ever dated was a national champion NPC bikini/fitness model, SMOKING hot and she was actually really cool and humble... we literally had an amazing time 100% of the time, never argued, and one day she was just on waaaay too much anavar and lost her fucking mind on me for something that was her fault, I called her out on her shit, and we never spoke again.

Women that aren't that hot are actually like guys- meaning they have to actually try. They can sorry when they're wrong, they will stop doing something you tell them bothers you, they are a lot considerate, reliable, willing to contribute and just happy to be with you.

Social media, dating apps and feminism have made most women into complete trash. Dating apps just teach them that they can treat a man as shitty as they want, and if he doesn't like it, there are 1000x more guys in her inbox that will simp to the lowest levels of simp-dom for them.

Damn brother, you me and it seems like any other man who actually wants a solid decent woman, are going to need to build a Time Machine and go back to the 1950s to find a decent woman. Maybe if we can get ahold of some element 115 and a particle accelerator we can figure this out. Until then we are gonna be stuck hate fucking these liberal femtards all the while hoping we don’t get one of them pregnant on accident.

I tell anyone who honestly loves who they are with but having those extreme issues really consider counseling.
I was not Gung ho on it but honestly it has taught me alot and gotten me through this divorce without me running into oncoming traffic.

If both individuals are willing to go and work on themselves and the relationship then success rates go up much much higher. Mine was not willing to, and honestly I don't blame her with the man I've been.

I know there are women out there in their early 30s that have their shit together and don't mind an older guy especially if they take care of themselves. It's not necessarily the age but what you do with it. That goes on both ends. I get what your saying though, finding a younger person at that stage is often more difficult. They do exist though.

Boom180 said:

I tell anyone who honestly loves who they are with but having those extreme issues really consider counseling.
I was not Gung ho on it but honestly it has taught me alot and gotten me through this divorce without me running into oncoming traffic.

If both individuals are willing to go and work on themselves and the relationship then success rates go up much much higher. Mine was not willing to, and honestly I don't blame her with the man I've been.

I know there are women out there in their early 30s that have their shit together and don't mind an older guy especially if they take care of themselves. It's not necessarily the age but what you do with it. That goes on both ends. I get what your saying though, finding a younger person at that stage is often more difficult. They do exist though.

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So let's say you DO find one- society as a whole has gotten miserable and loves to find ways to demonize people. Every time i go on social media and an article about a couple with an age gap pops up, the older guy is called a perv/creep/etc and gets flooded with negative opinions. It's easy to say that you "shouldn't care what others think", but what if that extends to her friends and family? No matter how well you connect, im afraid 2 people in completely different age groups will not be able to relate the same way as someone who is within a couple years age. Id be afraid of her eventually getting the desire to be with a younger guy.

I am seeing a therapist right now, and honestly it doesn't help. Therapists are for people who lack self awareness and dont know how to cope. Externally, i keep running into the same issues no matter how positive of an outlook i have or how much i do the right thing. Therapists have no control over that.

We have been meaning to go to couples therapy and even had an appointment scheduled months ago, but she has been having chronic migraines for months and her health has been awful, she got a bad staph infection and has a really painful lump in a breast now to add to the problem. So we have put that on the back burner, because her physical health is more important.

I am just so exhausted by life and people, i enjoy nothing any more. Ive cut out 99% of my friends who are just completely toxic, obnoxious and narcissistic, me and my girl dont even spend time any more because her health is fucked and I have to walk on eggshells for her, i enjoy NOTHING any more, im not close with my family... it feels like im living just to pay taxes, and im wondering why i keep doing it. I have no real hope for any kind of future and dont want to grow old to be by myself with no money and nothing to do. My sexual functions work 100% fine, but i have 0 desire to have sex or be intimate with anyone. Seriously considering just eating a bullet so i dont let this misery drag out any longer. Nobody depends on me for anything or hardly ever sees me, my dad died in September so at least i know i wont be disappointing him if i did.

zeusmcgee said:

Damn brother, you me and it seems like any other man who actually wants a solid decent woman, are going to need to build a Time Machine and go back to the 1950s to find a decent woman. Maybe if we can get ahold of some element 115 and a particle accelerator we can figure this out. Until then we are gonna be stuck hate fucking these liberal femtards all the while hoping we don’t get one of them pregnant on accident.

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I dont think you have to go THAT far back, i think where it all really started to go to shit was around ~15 years ago. It's dating apps and social media, IG and all this shit makes any attractive woman think she's a celebrity, and on a smaller scale, that's how they get treated. Women literally have 0 consequence for treating a man like shit.

Look at Tom Brady/Giselle Bundchen- she had arguably THE most desirable man in America that checked every single box and seemed like a great family man, she KNEW what she signed up for marrying him- then goes and has an affair on him, rejects all his attempts to keep the family together even though SHE was wrong-- and just gets to go on and live a dream life, fucking whoever she wants in luxury after publicly humiliating him. Sure, Tom can do the same, but what about all the men who this happens to who are NOT one of the richest, most successful, best looking guys on the planet?

I honestly don't even have the desire to fuck women, which is a first for me.

Gotta have the right therapist, but yes it doesn't work for everyone.

You have alot on your plate. My relationship was far from perfect and there was alot on her end that needed worked on but ultimately I fucked up, and literally hate myself every day for it. She eas not happy and this was a justified reason to bounce. Believe me, I have a beautiful 3 year old that gives me purpose. I've still felt many nights that it would be a blessing to go to sleep and not wake up.

We can't see how awesome life can be while we are in the storm, and some last a long time.

Society can fuck off if they don't like the age of the girl you date. I know it's hard but you just have to acknowledge that people are gonna be shitty including friends but explain that this is love and why shouldn't you be happy. Your going home with this person every night, make new friends that aren't so fucking 1 sided. Keep your head up dude, more people probably depend and care about you than ya know.

Boom180 said:

Gotta have the right therapist, but yes it doesn't work for everyone.

You have alot on your plate. My relationship was far from perfect and there was alot on her end that needed worked on but ultimately I fucked up, and literally hate myself every day for it. She eas not happy and this was a justified reason to bounce. Believe me, I have a beautiful 3 year old that gives me purpose. I've still felt many nights that it would be a blessing to go to sleep and not wake up.

We can't see how awesome life can be while we are in the storm, and some last a long time.

Society can fuck off if they don't like the age of the girl you date. I know it's hard but you just have to acknowledge that people are gonna be shitty including friends but explain that this is love and why shouldn't you be happy. Your going home with this person every night, make new friends that aren't so fucking 1 sided. Keep your head up dude, more people probably depend and care about you than ya know.

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I don't think younger chicks would even like me for that to be a problem. I don't really like myself if we're being honest. Im a homebody, i dont like to go out and party any more, i dont do anything exciting really.

I really dont want to leave my gf, we are unbreakably close and i know she is a good person, but she has become impossible to deal with. I feel bad for her health more than anything, she knows she has issues and is willing to work on herself, but her health is more important. Which puts me in this spot

Xxplosive said:

So let's say you DO find one- society as a whole has gotten miserable and loves to find ways to demonize people. Every time i go on social media and an article about a couple with an age gap pops up, the older guy is called a perv/creep/etc and gets flooded with negative opinions. It's easy to say that you "shouldn't care what others think", but what if that extends to her friends and family? No matter how well you connect, im afraid 2 people in completely different age groups will not be able to relate the same way as someone who is within a couple years age. Id be afraid of her eventually getting the desire to be with a younger

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My biggest age gap was when I was 41 and she was 27. She was a RN and quite well established. The biggest difference that I noticed was her maturity level. Not that she was immature, she just wasn’t to my level yet. I met her family and they were all cool with me. Outlaw Muscle is my only “social media” so I didn’t have to deal with any of that ridicule. We would likely still be together if not for the fact that we live almost two hours away from one another. We still talk. We still fuck every time we see each other but that’s only once or twice a year. I have noticed her maturity level come up since we were “together”.

I took my daughter into a bar to get lunch one day. A few weeks later I went to the same place again by myself. I ended up asking the bartender out and we had a brief fling for a few weeks. One night she told me that the day I came in with my daughter she was pissed off because she thought my daughter was my girlfriend. I guess I walked in ahead of her and the bartender was instantly attracted to me and then let down because I was followed by my daughter whom she thought was my girlfriend. My daughter was 18 at the time and I couldn’t comprehend the fact that the bartender thought we were boyfriend/girlfriend. The bartender was 44 and according to her I “look” like the type that is expected to be with younger women. I usually am but I did take slight offense to being stereotyped.